Love and Pleasure for the Muslimah

Love and Pleasure for the Muslimah

From Aquila Style:

When talking about sex, most people can tell you about a husband’s rights over his wife. But what about the other way around, asks Theresa Corbin.

I don’t agree with everything written here (I don’t believe in the Hadith that says that if a wife refuses to go to bed with her husband when he wants her to the angels curse her) but this article focuses on the wife’s rights to sexual pleasure, a conversation that needs to happen more (not that it doesn’t happen at all). 


More on sex shame

More on sex shame

Another very interesting piece on sex shame. What’s interesting is the intersection with race and racism. Intersectionality is always at play.

Through my sex writing, one of my goals has been to become a sex cheerleader for Latinas like me. I know so many women still trying to unpack all of their cultural baggage, women who can’t have sex without being stung with guilt. Maybe our mothers and grandmothers couldn’t, but we can exist outside the binaries now. We don’t have to let the world decide who we will be. Call me romantic, call me sentimental, but I think we can wage revolution with our bodies.

On sex shame

On sex shame

An interesting article on sex shame – something related (though not the same) as what I’ve been researching for the past year and some – sex guilt.

A new blog encourages women to share stories about their sexuality in hopes of making sex better for everyone

Dissertating and Distractions

For the last little while I have been concentrating fully on finishing up my dissertation. These last few months of my PhD are exciting, as they mean I am almost finished this long and arduous process, but they are also very trying and difficult. But more on that later. I came across this article which I found quite interesting. It’s always a good idea to revisit some of seminal works in social psychology to see if their findings still hold in such different times, or if they even held in the first place.

Ramadan Mubarak

I know this is a little late, but Ramadan Mubarak to all those observing the month in whichever ways they feel comfortable. Here’s to spiritual renewal!!

There is an unseen sweetness in the stomach’s emptiness. We are lutes. When the sound box is filled, no music can come forth. When the brain and the belly burn from fasting, every moment a new song rises out of the fire. The mists clear, and a new vitality makes you spring up the steps before you . . .

~ Jalaluddin Rumi

Love, Insha’Allah

Love, Insha’Allah

I absolutely love this website. This is the accompanying website to a wonderful book, also called Love, Insha’Allah: The Secret Love Lives of American Muslim Women. This book is a compilation of essays written by Muslim women about their love lives. And unlike what one may expect (though that would be based on stereotypes) the stories are very diverse. There are stories from both straight and lesbian Muslim women as well as married women, single women, dating women, religious women, and not as religious women. Our community has for too long shied away from having these conversations and, personally, I believe that is hurting our younger generations. This website, and the book, are opening up a great conversation in an inclusive and safe way, making it easy for people with all types of experiences to share and not feel judged or condemned. And that is VERY important.

I especially love their advice posts. They have two advice givers, one woman and one man, who are very empathetic, inclusive, and non-judgmental. Again, exactly what we need. 

Please give it a read and share with others, especially young Muslims. They also have a Facebook page